Topic: How to make my girl get a job. (Read 21793 times)

RotaryGeek · « **on:** November 01, 2011, 01:59:14 AM »

Seems like this is a constant issue with me. I pay all the bills, she stays home and watches the kids. But its to the point now where after the bills are paid we have like $200 left till the end of the month (paid once a month). Its time for her to get a job. But with two kids, she will have to make a decent amount of $$$ to cover daycare and some extra for us. And before someone says it, no she won't work the corner. If i can't pay her to get some, no one else will either.

Towdogg · « **Reply #1 on:** November 01, 2011, 02:44:57 AM »

If she has time for a job, tell that bitch to get one...

MTZ · « **Reply #2 on:** November 01, 2011, 02:53:03 AM »

do the math VERY well because i bet in the end it will be hard to profit from her job, daycare is fucking expensive, gas from going to work, lunch (it doesnt matter if she is bringing her own from the house she WILL forget every-now and then and its almost impossible to not have lunch out in most jobs) , plus the fact that the kids dont get to be with people you trust and lose out on quality time might make it not worth it for her to work... making minimum wage sucks, she would have to make bank to make it worth it

imburne · « **Reply #3 on:** November 01, 2011, 03:19:28 AM »

You cant do a side gig? Welding stuff, car fixes, etc. Years ago I had a electronic issue that drove me up the wall for a few days. I ended up looking online and found a few for like 50 to 75 bucks a hour! Thankfully I tracked down the issue because I could have easily winded up paying for 2-3 hours for a single wire that dislodged from the shitty conversion harness

rawr · « **Reply #4 on:** November 01, 2011, 03:19:37 AM »

have her figure out something to do from home to make money and get her off her fucking snizz

klyph · « **Reply #5 on:** November 01, 2011, 03:36:20 AM »

If she's a good mother/housekeeper, do your kids and yourself a favor and let her stay at home.

CSaddict · « **Reply #6 on:** November 01, 2011, 06:39:51 AM »

We pay $1500 a month in daycare. Subtract from the total she will make plus gas, food, time to drive the kids around and the fact they aren't with their mother.

97Econobox · « **Reply #7 on:** November 01, 2011, 07:20:10 AM »

Quote from: MTZ on November 01, 2011, 02:53:03 AM

do the math VERY well because i bet in the end it will be hard to profit from her job, daycare is fucking expensive, gas from going to work, lunch (it doesnt matter if she is bringing her own from the house she WILL forget every-now and then and its almost impossible to not have lunch out in most jobs) , plus the fact that the kids dont get to be with people you trust and lose out on quality time might make it not worth it for her to work... making minimum wage sucks, she would have to make bank to make it worth it

My wife is a stay at home and honestly i think it just works out better. It makes it much easier on me knowing hes with his mother and not a babysitter with 3 other kids he can pick up bad habits from.

See if you cant find some side work that you can include her in, have her look for 500 civic that need head gaskets or something like that you can flip over a weekend. Have her sell some weed or something.

Joseph Davis · « **Reply #8 on:** November 01, 2011, 09:22:42 AM »

Isn't this the same thread you started a couple years ago, only she wouldn't get a job or do the laundry before she got pregnant?

The hard truth here, bro, is she's probably never going to get a job, and conspire daily to spend your only $200 every month on whatever she wants, and then probably have a third kid you can't afford. You NEED to realize this is who she is. And then accept it, because the relationship has lasted for years and a couple kids deep, so it obviously works for you on some level.

Take charge of your finances. Downgrade vehicles if you've got new shit. Exercise thrift and self denial on some things. Have her sit down with you over the monthly bills so she sees the way money goes through the house. Tell her you need her help to get ahead so that you BOTH have an easy retirement, as well as yearly vacations and god help you a date night every week or three away from the kids.

92CXyD · « **Reply #9 on:** November 01, 2011, 09:26:33 AM »

Quote from: Joseph Davis on November 01, 2011, 09:22:42 AM

Isn't this the same thread you started a couple years ago, only she wouldn't get a job or do the laundry before she got pregnant?

The hard truth here, bro, is she's probably never going to get a job, and conspire daily to spend your only $200 every month on whatever she wants, and then probably have a third kid you can't afford. You NEED to realize this is who she is. And then accept it, because the relationship has lasted for years and a couple kids deep, so it obviously works for you on some level.

Take charge of your finances. Downgrade vehicles if you've got new shit. Exercise thrift and self denial on some things. Have her sit down with you over the monthly bills so she sees the way money goes through the house. Tell her you need her help to get ahead so that you BOTH have an easy retirement, as well as yearly vacations and god help you a date night every week or three away from the kids.

Spoken like a married man.

RotaryGeek · « **Reply #10 on:** November 01, 2011, 09:35:44 AM »

Yeah JD, same girl, same problem. She has picked up watching a friends kid a couple days a week at $15 a day, but that's still not cutting it. She knows our finances probably better than I do, she actually pays all the bills for me and manages the money. I would get a side job, but working for the prison is an on call 24/7 job and I already get up at 4 am to make it to work on time. It doesn't leave much time to see my kids as it is. I was thinking her get a job while I'm at home. I normally get home at 3pm and the kids go to bed at 8 then I follow right after them. She has a car, but no license or insurance on it. We are gunna sell it to help fund Christmas. I have an 03 altima that is paid off, but she is excluded from the insurance. If she got a afternoon job and just make enough to make up the difference in adding her to my insurance the. A little for us, that would be great. Problem is talking her in to it.

PhilStubbs · « **Reply #11 on:** November 01, 2011, 10:13:23 AM »

She could easily waitress or do something like autozone from 3 till close. But I am 153% sure you won't talk her into it.

In you are in a shitty situation. Best thing I see is to cut some expenses till the kid starts school and then try to make her work 8-2 so she can pick the kid up.

ratcityrex · « **Reply #12 on:** November 01, 2011, 11:27:31 AM »

Man, u need to get rid of shit the you don't NEED. Like internet, cable, home phone or cell phones, downgrade to 1 cell if u keep the land line. Dump netflix, don't eat out. Make coffee at home, man there is a bunch of stuff u can do to lower bills and save money.

HiProfile · « **Reply #13 on:** November 01, 2011, 11:29:00 AM »

There are some self-help finatial stratagies that actually help. As JD said, there are a lot of ways to skim money off other expenses. Your state might also have utility assistance, i just barely qualify for it myself. I stand to get an $800 yearly credit. But having her get a gig where she works when you're home is the best route. Bartending or waitressing can earn quite a bit per hour.

My sister was paying a lot for daycare when both worked 40 a week, then she dropped to 16 hours and her husband took up the slack. Luckly his job allows for tons of overtime. It sucks, but there is no free meal for us middle-class white people.

PhilStubbs · « **Reply #14 on:** November 01, 2011, 11:35:36 AM »

Quote from: HiProfile on November 01, 2011, 11:29:00 AM

It sucks, but there is no free meal for us middle-class white people.

You could avoid having kids and picking up slack ass bitches that won't work. I have a nice house, nice new-ish car, my wife does too, I have a decent truck and an EF I'm building. It's cause I have no kids and my wife makes as much or more money than I do along with me fixing cars and tuning on the side to buy the car stuff I want.

d112crzy · « **Reply #15 on:** November 01, 2011, 11:40:26 AM »

If she doesn't make you money, make her save you money. Tell her to start couponing. So far, I've saved nearly $150 this month by saving a shitload of coupons and knowing how to use them at walmart. I always thought using coupons some some sort of peasant shit, but my woman talked me into it and when she showed me easy it was I was convinced.

RotaryGeek · « **Reply #16 on:** November 01, 2011, 12:14:03 PM »

Yeah she does the couponing thing too. We only have internet so I can do online classe(+$200 a month) and Netflix is our only extra expense. My phone and hers together is only $100 a month, and no landline, so she needs a cell in case of problems.

ratcityrex · « **Reply #17 on:** November 01, 2011, 12:27:41 PM »

Fuck, dump netflix and internet. Tether your phone for free, and save money.

chris · « **Reply #18 on:** November 01, 2011, 12:28:56 PM »

Accept that your life is going to be this way for the next few decades.

rawr · « **Reply #19 on:** November 01, 2011, 12:35:50 PM »

Start beating her. Blow that leftover $200 on whiskey.

flat_black · « **Reply #20 on:** November 01, 2011, 01:15:54 PM »

Perhaps you should have planned parent hood better, 200 dollars to spend a month isn't enough, if you have some kinda emergency etc... Blame yourself..

ratcityrex · « **Reply #21 on:** November 01, 2011, 01:21:36 PM »

Ht her an account on www.myfreecams.com make her make that money

rawr · « **Reply #22 on:** November 01, 2011, 01:24:37 PM »

Quote from: ratcityrex on November 01, 2011, 01:21:36 PM

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dvst8r · « **Reply #23 on:** November 01, 2011, 01:55:49 PM »

Quote from: rawr on November 01, 2011, 01:24:37 PM

Quote from: ratcityrex on November 01, 2011, 01:21:36 PM
Ht her an account on www.myfreecams.com make her make that money

j.h.christ · « **Reply #24 on:** November 01, 2011, 02:20:10 PM »

Protest

crxvtec91 · « **Reply #25 on:** November 01, 2011, 02:55:04 PM »

Shit she dont put out and wont work, WTF is wrong with her!

Joseph Davis · « **Reply #26 on:** November 01, 2011, 03:08:46 PM »

Aaaaaaand this thread is no longer constructive.

ratcityrex · « **Reply #27 on:** November 01, 2011, 03:32:48 PM »

Just trying to help!

crttaz · « **Reply #28 on:** November 01, 2011, 03:33:35 PM »

Quote from: rawr on November 01, 2011, 03:19:37 AM

have her figure out something to do from home to make money and get her off her fucking snizz

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EDIT: I didn't read down far enough.....post a link though.

hatchboy · « **Reply #29 on:** November 01, 2011, 06:46:19 PM »

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