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[marcj]

Alright guys, I'm at the worst possible spot I have ever been at, and I need some advice.

Ok, lets rewind to the beginning, I met my fiance' two years ago, I met her at an old friends house. He brought her home as a divorced chick, and was sleeping with her at the time. Once she got to know me, we fell in love and moved out, and had a kid together. We've been a very happy and straight couple this whole time, but over the past 2 months I used her back disorder (scoliosis) to get her prescribed pain pills (roxicodone). well, FL doctors will write for whatever you want, so we stayed on these things on a daily basis and became dependent to the point of having infected sinuses from all the binders from the pills just sitting up there piling up, so we decided to try IV, since I'm in the medical field (or at least studying).

On April 26th, I took a lot of xanax, which i've never taken before, and I ended up blacking out when she was yelling at me about setting up our sons food, tearing the place up. her mom came and took the baby (last time i've seen him), and she left with her parents (we are both 27 btw) and she voluntarily cut all communication with me, with an occassional chat telling me she still loves me and all this. well, she ends up admitting herself to detox, and has been there since. In the mean time, I'm left with a stack of bills, sober since that night, and her parents get her permission to move all of her stuff out of an apartment we have (in her name, lol, 9 months left @$750 a month)

So, I'm left trying to decide if I should take out a loan to make the bills on my own and give her the next 3 weeks to figure out if she wants to try again, or should I take the hint now, move out into a friends house as singlemode so quick? I plan on marrying this woman, and I know she's really being bullied by her family because she went to them for help and they completely turned it against me, they even used a psychiatrist to convince her she needs to get away from me.

any advice is greatly appreciated. I'm sitting here in an empty place with the little furniture I have spread out amongst a huge 2br 2bth apartment that will be evicted soon if I don't make the whole rent. Everything I love was all taken from me in one day.

[90boostdaccord]

you fucked up.  what do you expect? 

[Foowee]

If you can't afford or handle drugs don't do them.  If you can't afford children don't have anymore.  Don't forget you are also a victim of your own decisions...  

I personally am not a fan of paying to borrow money or relying on others.  So I'd probably take the hint n avoid more debt, but I'm not a father n I'm not in your situation.  Good luck...

[Joseph Davis]

I know she's really being bullied by her family because she went to them for help and they completely turned it against me, they even used a psychiatrist to convince her she needs to get away from me.

You're not a bad person, Marc, but you're part of a bad codependent junkie relationship.  What's in your heart is irrelevant, you have some fundamental fucking issues and you need to step waaaaay back and look at your life.  This is your moment of clarity time, so pay attention.

If you want a future with your son you need to go into NA at the very least, if not voluntary committal.  Press the reset button on your life and let everything worldly go.  Keeping your mouth shut towards her parents is the best bet as they will never like you, but they might do you the favor of not saying anything while frowning at you when you try to take an active role in your son's life in a few months, a year, or longer if it takes that.  Fuck, keep your mouth shut towards your fiancee - your relationship wasn't anything that kept you from the situation you're in now so there's nothing great about it, you and your ?ex? have just drug your son down into that shitty lifestyle.

Also, the pills have been going on longer than two months so you're full of some fucking bullshit on a couple of levels.  If you could listen to him and hear the words coming out of his mouth, a nice fifteen minute phone conversation with Spiker would put your life in focus.  You have to choose for yourself what constitutes a life worth living, and then act on that decision.

[snarf]

^^^Some solid advice right there.  Also know this.  'Heisus' can pull you out off anywhere.

[92CXyD]

May want this thread moved to the OG forum just in case.

Get yourself straight man. Your boy needs a father. :yes:

[SDRAWKCAB]

no wonder you suck at shipping.

ITS EASY
sell the pills to

make rent to
 
take care of your son and

STOP BEING A NIGGER JUNKIE FUCK!

[j.h.christ]

no matter what you choose to do, quit putting shit up your nose/in your veins. no good comes from that, ever. and yes that's the voice of experience. i know in FL the shit is sooo fucking easy to get from the pain management clinics, but until you ditch it, you're fucked.

[chris]

If you promise to ship in time Ill buy your guys leftovers.

[keelay]

If your promise to ship in time Ill buy your guys leftovers.

Always, ALWAYS, keep a handle on ANYTHING you do that can become a problem. This shit is the fucking devil man.

[LS1pwNzJ00]

blue ones eh?  Agreed, that shit is the devil

[keelay]

But seriously, someone move this to OG, asap.Editing my last post until that is done.

[chris]

If you promise to ship in time Ill buy your guys leftovers.

[jay]

karma from fucking me on the bov

you must have a really soft spine for jd to like you that much im sure you sucked his eyes into the back of his head

no excuses for dbags who have kids and do drugs

your a faggot and you deserve everything coming for ya

what the fuck is up with guys getting sloppy seconds from there friends

what the fuck fell in love my ass more like you were so desprete for pussy you took your friends girl

[keelay]

what the fuck fell in love my ass more like you were so desprete for pussy you took your friends girl

I know the kind. The kind with no skillz to get their own womenz, so they play the good guy on their friends girls. Sadly it works about half the time...

[chris]

Peeling your friends ex is acceptable. Becoming a junky with her and making babies is not.

[DRQPQUT]

zing!!! all bullshit aside one addict to another nothing else matters at this point,not your kid not your apt.,not your girlfriend....your kid sounds like he is safe and in a good place focus on yourself and your DIS-EASE....if you get right with yourself everything else will fall into place nobody can do this for you...its gonna be a long journey but if you do the right thing you will be suprised by the outcome i guarntee that

[SDRAWKCAB]

Peeling your friends ex is acceptable. Becoming a junky with her and making babies is not.

quoted for the truth!

[keelay]

zing!!! all bullshit aside one addict to another nothing else matters at this point,not your kid not your apt.,not your girlfriend....your kid sounds like he is safe and in a good place focus on yourself and your DIS-EASE....if you get right with yourself everything else will fall into place nobody can do this for you...its gonna be a long journey but if you do the right thing you will be suprised by the outcome i guarntee that

That sounds like the biggest load of NA bullshit I have ever heard. If he WANTS to stop, or get control of a situation he will. Calling an addiction a disease is fucking retarded. You don't acquire it by chance, you get addicted by being a selfish cunt, and loading your nose up on a daily so YOU can feel good. How in the fuck is selfishness a disease? Disease implies that the person had no choice. Unless someone crushed a bag of blue's, red's or green's and stuck your fucking head in it and you HAD to breath it in, IT'S YOUR FUCKING FAULT! You started it to feel better, you let it get out of control, you let it come between you and your stolen girlfriend, and YOU let it become more to you than your child. It's up to YOU to get it under control. Stop being a junkie, and prioritize. And yes, I have been there. I have detoxed off the SAME shit numerous time, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. It just takes a little bit of will power. Stop being a faggot

[sewell94]

I cant blame the ex's parents for doing what thet are doing. They're worrying about their grandchild and daughter first, they don't have the time to worry about you. From there perspective you look like a scum bag, rightfully so.  They are doing what needs to be done for the best for their kin, Thats what good parents do.  

I'm sure at this point they don't know that your sober. Until they see that they need to keep you away.  I'm not saying this is all your fault, this is them,again, being good parents.

You need to help yourself first. Like JD said hit the life reset button.  Make the needed changes to get your life straight. Once your lifes straight then work on working things out with the ex.

I agree with keeping your mouth shut to her parents, except for that fact that you NEED to tell them tell them thank-you for helping your kid and ex-fiance,  ultimately their helping you too.

Until the both of you are straight, theres no reaon for the both of you to have a place, Find a friend to live with that will babysit you and keep you on the right track.

[arsenio]

Got any Viagras?

[jay]

the no brainer response would be..

FUCK YEAH!! FUCK THAT BITCH!!! live on your own your home free she doesnt love you she kicked you to the curb go move in with your friend and make some money and get a different hoe..

the buk response..

Alright guys, I'm at the worst possible spot I have ever been at, and I need some advice.

Ok, lets rewind to the beginning, I met my fiance' two years ago, I met her at an old friends house. He brought her home as a divorced chick, and was sleeping with her at the time. Once she got to know me, we fell in love and moved out, and had a kid together. We've been a very happy and straight couple this whole time, but over the past 2 months I used her back disorder (scoliosis) to get her prescribed pain pills (roxicodone). well, FL doctors will write for whatever you want, so we stayed on these things on a daily basis and became dependent to the point of having infected sinuses from all the binders from the pills just sitting up there piling up, so we decided to try IV, since I'm in the medical field (or at least studying).

On April 26th, I took a lot of xanax, which i've never taken before, and I ended up blacking out when she was yelling at me about setting up our sons food, tearing the place up. her mom came and took the baby (last time i've seen him), and she left with her parents (we are both 27 btw) and she voluntarily cut all communication with me, with an occassional chat telling me she still loves me and all this. well, she ends up admitting herself to detox, and has been there since. In the mean time, I'm left with a stack of bills, sober since that night, and her parents get her permission to move all of her stuff out of an apartment we have (in her name, lol, 9 months left @$750 a month)

So, I'm left trying to decide if I should take out a loan to make the bills on my own and give her the next 3 weeks to figure out if she wants to try again, or should I take the hint now, move out into a friends house as singlemode so quick? I plan on marrying this woman, and I know she's really being bullied by her family because she went to them for help and they completely turned it against me, they even used a psychiatrist to convince her she needs to get away from me.

any advice is greatly appreciated. I'm sitting here in an empty place with the little furniture I have spread out amongst a huge 2br 2bth apartment that will be evicted soon if I don't make the whole rent. Everything I love was all taken from me in one day.

she became your fiancee after only two years???

divorced chick = no no, whatever excuse she gives you as to why she got a divorce is a fucking lie

taking your friends girl? wow you really are a fucking jew

so much shit wrong here im not even gonna touch it

you only had the kid so you could get on welfare you fucking jew

another one i dont even need to reply to

pick a different profession

see purple

see green

be happy that her parents came and took the kid/your girl and not the cops or child protective services

she did you a fucking favor be happy it was clean, also shes a fucking liar she obviously doesnt love you.. unless shes easilly coarsed into doing stupid shit by anyone and her parents forced her away from you (dont use this as an excuse.. no she doesnt love you)

dont do detox unless its a last resort and all other means fail

be happy thats all you got stuck with XD you could be sitting in jail right now faggot

liar

did they already do it? if not clean the fuck out of the apartments and clean yourself up and call them and have them come pick the shit up normally i would say stall them till you can buy yourself more time but they obviously got you by the balls in this case..

if you let her apartment/her credit go to shit your proving to her that your worthless.. why cant you find roommates to move in with you? is your driver licence registered to that adress? if not get on that asap get all bills transferred to your name asap.. that will give you atleast 1 month to get your shit together

not if she doesnt want anything to do with you

youve been with the chick for 2 years.. is that really why she wants nothing to do with you?

sell whatever shit you have to sell asap.. even if that includes your car.. buy a beater civic or whatever to get around.. get some roomates asap.. i know shit sucks but oh well you need to do whatever you can to get atleast 1 month buffer time.. go find a job.. multiple jobs.. under the table jobs.. sucking dick jobs.. do whatever to meet ends meet.. 750 a month aint shit and the bills are as high as you make them

in the meantime as you get shit back to normal

[keelay]

All the pretty colors

[j.h.christ]

taking life advice from buk is like taking parenting advice from casey anthony

[keelay]

taking life advice from buk is like taking parenting advice from casey anthony

Compared to what Marc is doing/has done, buk sounds like he knows what the fuck is up. And I don't like jihadists

[chris]

Blame florida for its failures. Lets ask the basic question so you thought it was a good idea to start becoming a pill head when your bragging about going in the Military.


You also claimed you couldnt go in because of credit card debit? Im assuming the pill problem has been there since day one.

[Urban Indian]

I cant blame the ex's parents for doing what thet are doing. They're worrying about their grandchild and daughter first, they don't have the time to worry about you. From there perspective you look like a scum bag, rightfully so.  They are doing what needs to be done for the best for their kin, Thats what good parents do.  

I'm sure at this point they don't know that your sober. Until they see that they need to keep you away.  I'm not saying this is all your fault, this is them,again, being good parents.

You need to help yourself first. Like JD said hit the life reset button.  Make the needed changes to get your life straight. Once your lifes straight then work on working things out with the ex.

I agree with keeping your mouth shut to her parents, except for that fact that you NEED to tell them tell them thank-you for helping your kid and ex-fiance,  ultimately their helping you too.

Until the both of you are straight, theres no reaon for the both of you to have a place, Find a friend to live with that will babysit you and keep you on the right track.

Holy fuck. Take JD & Tom's advice.

Get your fucking life in order before you try and get back together. The grandparents took the son for a reason. They are your voice of reason right now, sort your shit out before you try anything.

[arsenio]

God damn bro, I thought my life was all fucked up. I guess not having a license isn't as bad as the shit you got going on. I say first thing first. Get off the crack or whatever else you're into. You can't really take care of a kid when you're so strung out that you just black out.

Double time it at Chilis and work as much as you can. You should be saving a grip by not getting all the 'yayo.' See if you can move back home for a wile to get you self straight.

As far as the kid goes, I can't really say. I would just let her keep him and pay child support or what ever. But maybe actually having a kid changes how you feel about them.

This is how we do it in Florida. I blame it on the lack of emissions testing. People get careless.

[SDRAWKCAB]

Where do you live in Florida I come beat some sense into you.

Shit in Florida, 16 year olds beat up bums for fun. Not kidding.

[bigwig]

This thread stopped being entertaining after the original post.  I'm severely disappointed.

Less help, more calling Marc a white trashy pill popping loser who isn't even responsible enough to be sober around his 2 year old kid.  Instead he gets high and passes out with a his infant child right next to him.

You are a class act.