My girl did the same shit to me. They are just looking for some justification for leaving because they are already emotionally unattached and feel trapped. She just needed an excuse to leave and be guilt free about it. She rationalizes some bullshit reason (and you haven't given her many to choose from). Fact is, she distanced herself (probably a few months prior) then jumps on any reason to make the whole mess ALL your fault. It doesn't matter what you do, she doesn't want you back. The weed was never the issue.
No, your relationship failure was all your fault. You're a nice guy, and women don't respect that. I have $10 that says within 6 months your ex is with some guy that eats pain pills like candy, is in and out of legal trouble, quite probably beats her, and SHE LOVES HIM.
Both raiden and fysh, get laid in the short term and don't worry about it.
Sounds like pretty much EVERY boyfriend she had before me, including her ex-fiance. What I don't get is she says she will never respect me until I quit drinking heavily. I didn't start drinking excessively until she left,
Canned response from her. She's not even giving conversation with you any conscious thought. Forget her.
And JD, I'm working on getting laid. My game is a bit rusty, but I'm currently working on 2 girls right now. 1 more coming into the mix soon.
Accept the fact that you are a nice guy, and it's written all over you. Nothing you can do will change this. This is somewhat advantageous as you make women feel safe, which means you only have to push the buttons she normally looks for in the long term disaster three ring circus BUT I LOVE HIM sort of relationship that women seek out.
Even though it comes out as false, you have to say shit that objectifies her to get her interested, so it's it's best to do it as a joke. I liked meeting a girl casually once or twice, then walk up to her (ideally at a party after an hour or two of social lubricants) and tell her, "I am sooo in love with you. (pause) What was your name again?" You can tell within ten seconds if she'll sleep with you.
Always, at some point, she will realise she's saddled with a nice guy and want to leave. Whether it's after two days or after a long term like your current ex, she will leave as comfort and trust and security are nothing compared to drama and abuse and having someone to take care of. Have your game face on as you can see it coming, and be relieved as she'll feel bad about doing it but frankly you don't have to be saddled with the bitch. Just continue to be nice and supportive all the way through and she'll leave quietly. Alternately, you can go ahead and break it off with here in a calm but critical manner, which guarantees you some break up sex for that night and maybe puts you on the casual sex roster for the next 1-2 weeks before she finds a real asshole to disrespect her.
Don't get too caught up in treating women like that as you'll miss the small handful of sane ones. And be careful, relationships with women who are nicer than you are will lack passion and make you unhappy.
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