Not at all. I'm just saying the rich man's ride is smoooooth as Spiker's babyfat ass. After you shave it and run in some cocoa butter, of course.
much of that comes from decent high speed damping- something almost every <$2000 coilover completely ignores. like you said, stiffer isn't necessarily better- especially when you can control roll with the bars. when you start getting too stiff, the car is very difficult to settle over bumps. nothing changes the color of your underwear faster than hitting a bump and having the car instantaneously jump about 2 feet toward the outside of the turn before it plants itself again.
KYB AGXs are the absolute worst shock for high speed damping. people who run those obviously like their internal organs shaken, not stirred.
wanna get crazy? run hydraulic weight jackers at each corner with a 2-axis accelerometer controlling the pump/ pressure as the car pitches and rolls to keep it perfectly flat (and effectively control the camber curve of the suspension), while keeping ultra-soft spring rates to generate mechanical grip. that's pretty much how the active suspension systems in the lotus and williams F1 cars worked. although, they had the added aero advantage that comes with keeping the car flat relative to the ground.